We’re all about great sex here at S&LC. First of all, it’s in the name. Second of all, a life without sex seems pretty damn boring, am I right?
There’s a lot to learn when it comes to having better sex, and we think that improving your sensual wellbeing should be at the top of everyone’s priority list – whether you’re single, dating around or in a long term committed relationship.
Temptation Holidays are one company that are looking to do just that. They are working on providing mini breaks and holidays all aimed at helping you learn more about sex. Whether you’re brand new to stepping up your game or are looking to take your skills to the next level.
But what can sensual wellbeing do for you? Why bother working on it?
1. You become more sexually confident
Having incredible sex is 70% about confidence. Ok, that’s not an official statistic but you get my point. Getting your brain on board is a huge part of doing the deed. If you’re not in the moment, your mind will wander off, you may struggle to get wet or hard and may even have trouble reaching orgasm – not great.
Whether you become more confident in doing certain things – whether it’s perfecting oral techniques or performing a sultry striptease – improving your sensual wellbeing helps to bring sex to the forefront of your mind. If you know what you’re planning to do is going to be good, you’re going to be dying to get on with it.
2. You learn more about pleasuring other people
I guarantee that all people feel a sense of pride when they make their partner squirm, cry out in pleasure or declare that they just had the best orgasm of their life. There’s certainly no shame in admitting it.
And let’s face it, who doesn’t want to learn how to make their partner scream? Or arch their back? Or make their eyes roll back into their head? Sensual wellbeing is all about making you do just that. You could learn things that you never knew before.
For example, did you know that one of the most sensitive part of the penis is the frenulum? This is the little V-shaped bit of skin that connects the glans (head) to the shaft, so pay it a little extra attention to blow his mind.
Or did you know that the clitoris has legs?! For so long we have believed the clitoris is the little nub above the vagina but it actually extends underneath the skin and around the vagina internally. So don’t neglect the vulva and crease of the legs.
3. You learn more about pleasuring yourself
Perhaps even more important than learning how to pleasure others, you’ll learn a great deal more about what gets you going. Everyone is different – vaginas and penises are like snowflakes after all – and we all like doing something different to reach the big O. You may think you have pretty good orgasms already, but what if you learn that stimulating the nipples produces oxytocin and prolactin that hotwire to your genitals? Knowing a simple trick like this could be the push you need to have the best pleasure of your life.
4. You’ll probably learn a new skill
If you think learning about sensual wellbeing involves sitting behind a desk and staring at a blackboard then we’ve got news for you. While the hot teacher / student fantasy may be a favourite, sensual wellbeing is about so much more than making notes.
Most sensual wellbeing getaways or holidays offer classes on burlesque dancing, stripping, seduction, and even erotic writing. All of these are new strings that you can add to your sexual bow (strange image, there) that’ll help you have a more satisfying sex life in the future.
5. You’ll put your new tricks into action
Sensual wellbeing is all about having better sex; something that we all deserve. And the tips and tricks that we mentioned above will all serve you well. For example, while you may not go out and pen the next bestselling erotic novel – although you could if you wanted to! – you can use your new found skills to write some sexy texts to get your partner in the mood. They’ll be begging for you as soon as you walk through the door at the end of the day.
Stripping and burlesque speaks for itself; there’s nothing hotter than watching the person you’re attracted to most teasingly remove their clothes in front of you. Ban all touching and they’ll be squirming in their seat. Phew.
Want to have your say on sensual wellbeing?
Temptation Holidays are currently developing the types of holidays and experiences that they will offer in the future. They want to get into the nitty gritty of what the general public want and provide a solution they will love.
Want to help out? Take this short survey to let the guys at Temptation Holidays know exactly what you’d look for in a sexy getaway to learn new things. Need more persuasion? Complete the survey at you’ll receive 20% off at the SexToys.co.uk online store and be entered into the draw to receive a prize.
Get going, honey.
By Megan Crehan
*This post was written in collaboration with Temptation Holidays.