Living with GAD – Generalised Anxiety Disorder

I know exactly what you’re thinking. Nixalina? Anxiety? Come off it love!!! Don’t worry I’d think the exact same. I am the most confident person I know, so how could anyone who is that outgoing and confident also have an anxiety issue? An anxiety issue so severe I couldn’t work for 2 months. Yah, pretty bad. This is probably the toughest feature I’ve written (yes, tougher than discussing bum sex I assure you) but it’s SO important to talk about this kind of crap, so here I am doing just that. Not many know about all this so, it’s a big deal for me to tell the entire world. But fuck it! Let’s crack on…

Back in winter 2014, I was high on life. I had just won the Cosmo Blog Awards. I’d appeared on Radio One, I’d been hired by The Metro and been asked to cover MTV EMA’s red carpet in Glasgow. This all came flooding in within 2 weeks, so it was of course over-whelming but in an incredible way. I was finally reaching the blog success that I had worked 4 years for and these epic opportunities were reflecting the amount of hard work I’ve put in. Life was GREAT. Then, on some random uneventful Sunday, I collapsed.

I remember the exact moment it began too. It hit me like a lorry load of logs: one minute I was my usual carefree self out shopping, the next I’m on the floor in the middle of Boots by the Pharmacy section (if you’re going to collapse anywhere, that’s a great place to start) and I was taken to A&E. I was luckily with one of my best friends so she accompanied me and helped talk me round from ‘the coma’ I was slipping in to. I wasn’t, FYI, actually slipping into a coma. I just felt like that was happening. 

I had no idea what a panic attack even felt like, so when I had my first one I genuinely thought my brain had suddenly malfunctioned and / or I was having a heart attack and dying. I previously thought a panic attack was like: “Oh, I feel a bit worried. Never mind.”  The reality is, it physically and mentally renders you useless. I forgot how to actually human. After a trip to A&E then being shafted to Medocc, I was given a Valium and sent home to sleep. 

This was a complete misdiagnosis and a cop out in my eyes. I was furious. Something was clearly physically wrong with me. I decided it was Labyrinthitis as all the symptoms were the same and my mum had suffered from it a few months earlier. Definitely Labyrinthitis. I went to my GP the following week when I wasn’t feeling any better and he discussed the possibility of anxiety. AS IF! I argued with my doctor that it 100% wasn’t that. I refused treatment and took instead tablets for nausea and dizziness to help my Labyrinthitis. 

I kept trying to go into work but had to continually come back and sob on the sofa for a bit. My work mates and my boss were just amazingggggg. I felt like one of those employees who people assume are taking the piss or just fancy time out. But every time I tried to go into work to resume my ‘normal’ life, panic and anxiety would flood over me out of no-where and I’d run off the train. I ended up one morning stranded in Meopham. In case you’re wondering what goes on in Meopham…absolutely nothing. Meopham has nothing going on.

A few weeks later of never being able to complete a train journey into London, something I usually do in auto-pilot mode, I went back to my doctor and admitted defeat. Okay, so I am clearly not very well. By this point it’s safe to say I was a shell of the person I was a month or so before. Every day I woke up and felt physically sick, I was dizzy from morning until night, I couldn’t focus my eyes on anything like a TV or laptop, I couldn’t walk straight without feeling like I was going to fall over. My concentration was completely fucked and sometimes even talking felt like a mammoth task. Appetite went completely (you lot not wondered how I lost so much weight?!) and I was always shaking. I had called 999 two times because, I was dying. Paramedics would arrive, do all the tests and talk me round to the fact that I actually wasn’t dying. I still didn’t believe them.

Aside from the physical aspect, every other part of my life sucked arse too. I cancelled on my friends constantly because I couldn’t leave my apartment, but didn’t know how to tell them exactly what I was going through. I didn’t even understand it myself. I didn’t go anywhere near a guy. I was struggling to even be okay around my family. My blog got abandoned, which made me more anxious obviously. I had to cancel my MTV EMA’s trip which made me feel like my life was over. I genuinely didn’t know if I was ever going to be ‘normal’ again or if this was now my life, which of course made me more anxious. I was dealing with the unknown, on my own. At one point I moved back in with my dad for a week because I couldn’t bear being alone. The most horrific part of anxiety in this severe stage is that whether you’re in the comfort of your own home, with friends, family, alone or out…it will always be there. When you’re watching TV on a Sunday afternoon in your own flat and you malfunction and call 999….well no-where seems safe does it?

Basically, life got fucking SHIT. So there I am, back at my doctors, ready to do or take anything he suggests that will help me remember how to be a human again. His verdict?

I was diagnosed with GAD – Generalised Anxiety Disorder.  How has this even happened? I was absolutely fine right? Where did this even come from? We’ll get to that with my therapy sessions in a minute…

I was prescribed an anti-depressant which I took when I got home but I was such a over-the-edge wreck about everything by this point that within 20 minutes of taking it I decided I had a serotonin overdose and called 999 again. My exact words were “If you don’t get an ambulance here, I’m going to be in a coma” before I dropped the phone and was retching over the toilet. Paramedics, once again, arrived and told me basically, to breathe properly or I really will pass out but it’s my own doing. They spotted my Cosmo Award and started talking to me about it, to try stop my hyperventilation. It worked but I was still convinced I was dying, just very slowly. 

It’s hard to put into words just how horrific these few months were. Unless you saw me crumbled on the floor, you could never get the extent of it. The things I used to do without a second thought became impossible, including walking 10 minutes to get a coffee and back. Crowds? No fucking way. I’d die in there. I couldn’t even enjoy a stroll in the woods without the trees ‘blurring’ in my vision and setting me off. My mind was in constant over-drive and I didn’t know how to approach the idea that I might have gone insane. I genuinely thought I might need sectioning if it didn’t stop. When I say ‘if it didn’t stop’ I mean the anxiety waves that ripple through you and make you wish you were asleep or dead to stop it. Every day, every single day, was a 24/7 struggle. With no way to work or blog, I was also bored shitless and this made me dwell even more on my sudden illness. The only saving grace is I didn’t drink or smoke for months and my skin looked incredible by the end of it.

With weekly appointments with my GP, I slowly introduced Sertaline into my system. Another anti-depressant drug. I had such a stigma attached to taking any kind of drugs that I freaked out even at this – and he put me on 25mg to start with just to try calm me the fuck down without making me think I’m having a serotonin overdose again. I wasn’t, ever, btw. The drugs take ages to get into your system. It took about 2 months for the Sertaline to allow me to be like “oh, I can do human stuff again”. The drug had allowed me to go back to work and by that point, my CBT was ready too. Cognitive Behavourial Therapy (basically a talking therapy), helped me out a shit load. 

This was genuinely the first time in a CBT session with my therapist when I started to realise why and how all of this had happened to me when it seemingly came out of no-where. It went something like this: 

Therapist: Let’s have a look at your  diary schedule for the next couple of weeks.

Me: Oh shit, okay. But just remember I’ve got a lot of catching up to do on, you know, life.

Therapist: Okay, you’re apparently busy / going out 6 days out of 7 both weeks. This is your problem.

Me: Yes, however, if I don’t go to these events then I can’t write about it and I need to because they’re great events so I have to go for my blog. 

Therapist: You can only go out 2 nights out of 7. 

Me: Absolutely no way. Not possible.

Therapist: Listen, your lifestyle is the cause for your anxiety disorder and it’s going to continue to break you down unless you adjust. 

Me: Okay, so, like I can drop to 4 nights out of 7 at a push because that particular week they’re realllyyyyy good events…

Worked out the cause yet? Yep…me too! Basically, my lifestyle was non-stop and I had worked myself into a physical and mental breakdown. We’re not talking about the drug life, I wasn’t partying or going on 2 day benders. I was working / networking / blogging / filming on top of my full-time job and I had taken on so many new opportunities that my body went ‘fuck this shit’ and malfunctioned aka, anxiety disorder took over. If you have to argue with your therapist about how many nights you get ‘off’ to chill, you know you have a problem. All those awesome activities I was doing that were making me so happy and what I had worked towards, were also the reason I collapsed. That’s fucking irony for you. 

Having worked through CBT, taken up yoga, listened to advice on my lifestyle and learnt that if I didn’t blog every week I wasn’t going to suddenly fall of the Earth…I got better. I weaned myself off Sertaline end of Summer 2015 – and that was an experience in itself! One minute you’re too afraid to start taking the drugs and then you’re too afraid to stop! I had all kinds of weird spasms and electrical ‘zaps’ which simply amused me in the end.  Weaning yourself off Sertaline is totally doable and it seems really scary but you just have to source that strength that’s clearly there to be able to carry on without it. 

Since coming off the drugs I have the odd episode but on the whole, I’m absolutely fine. I know now when I’m over doing it. I know that caffeine, smoking, alcohol etc are all triggers and I should do so in moderation. I’m literally back to ‘normal’ or whatever normal was before GAD came along. In fact, I’m probably even more confident and even MORE annoying because now I know just how strong I actually am as a person. It’s still in the back of my mind, especially if I’m hungover and feeling the shame, but it is completely under my control now, whereas before it was controlling me. 

Throughout this darkest winter of my entire life, I learnt a shit load about life:

1. Anxiety and depression are two completely different things and not to be confused. I have never been depressed. I have suffered with GAD. I cannot possibly comment on depression because I do not know anything about it. That being said, depression is similar to anxiety in that, it’s an issue sufferers cannot just ‘snap out of’. Taking tablets for anxiety is like taking antibiotics for an infection – if you’re ill, you need medical help to get better. The stigma attached to taking anti-depressants can bore off. 

2. Anyone dealing with anxiety / depression are not weak people – they’re actually the fucking strongest people you’ll ever meet. Being able to have an anxiety attack then take 5 minutes out, control your own breathing, talk yourself out of the situation and go back to what ever you were previously doing is just amazing.  Inner strength is out of this world. So big respect for all that. 

3. If you’ve never had a panic attack or anxiety attack or, I guess, depression too, you literally cannot understand. So don’t assume people are ‘faking’ it or they’re okay because the ‘look fine’. Mental disorders are as real as a broken leg. And please don’t say “just snap out of it” or “try not panic” because that’s the least helpful thing ever said in the entire world. If we could stop panicking, we’d have fucking done so already!

4. ‘Mental’ disorders doesn’t mean you’re mental. Well…perhaps I’ve always been a bit fucking bat shit cray! But seriously, anxiety and depression doesn’t mean you’re off to an asylum, even if sometimes it feels that way. The stress of modern life takes its toll on people and if you’re a workaholic like myself, then it’s bound to come out in some form or another. 

5. Never be ashamed if you are suffering from either. I think I managed to become better so quickly because I told everyone I trusted in my life, so they could help me if I needed it. Suffering alone is the worst thing to do and will only draw out the illness for you. 

6. There is no relation between lack of confidence and anxiety. I am, if anything, over confident and I still got hit by it. Anxiety doesn’t target shy or introverted people. Often, it’s the exact opposite. 

7. Stop worrying that you’re the only human suffering. You’re really really really not! Hopefully this article is proof of just that. 

8. Meopham is a desolate area to wander around in and I wouldn’t advise it for a day trip. 

9. Anxiety hasn’t changed me in the slightest and I’m still a gobby little twat. 

10. Paramedics are people too. And they want to talk about sex articles and dildos even when you’re hyperventilating on the floor. 

If you’re suffering and you’ve got no-one to talk to…will you just fucking email me please? That’s not a request it’s an order: 



  1. man_in_media
    March 7, 2016 / 2:35 pm

    Bloody love this Nix!!! I was the same when I was diagnosed with depressions last year…what do you mean depressions!? I'm the life of the party thanks very much! well done for sharing, you are a hero!

  2. Kim
    April 13, 2016 / 3:56 pm

    Thanks for writing this!! I've had GAD since I was 7. That's the reason I did my exams in a room by myself. I simply couldn't walk into the room and sit there with all those people without the incredible waves of anxiety and panic which would cause me to fail those exams..My day to day life is still marred by it now. I'm getting there… I've been on anti depressants since I was 14, have had 3 lots of CBT, a course of hypnotherapy, I even tried "meridian tapping" and I've still not beat it. Self love and self help are great, but when you're in that moment, NOTHING helps. I'm getting more confident, I did my first Facebook Live video – something I'd never have done even 6 months ago. Small victories and all that. Well done for working through it and coming out the other side. I salute you for that.xx

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