Friday, 8 April 2016

Cosmopolitan Interview - why I'm giving up sex for a whole year




In case you missed it, Cosmopolitan Magazine interviewed me this week about my glorious vow of no sex! If you fancy having a read, click here and enjoy!


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  1. 😱😱 ahhhh Nixalina! I applaud you! I personally know for a fact I wouldn't be able to do this challenge. Dog on heat!!!? Girl if we had a heat off I would sweat you down 😂😂. I can't even stem when it started or came from. My poor partner. Cannot wait to read more about your journey.

    P.s I hope you find the one 💕💕

    www.lauralivinglife.com

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    1. Hi Laura! haha the struggle is real girl...I'm only 3 months in and already cracking!!! Need to stick to my guns or just pray some hot single guy comes along pronto :D xx

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  2. This is the most inspirational thing I've read all week. Wow. I understand the struggle of having to go celibate and I truly wish you the best. Your openness and confidence is truly encouraging and I promise you there are guys out there that are ready to wait, love and date you fr you without the conflictions sex creates. (Yes, I'm hoping you date me) lol.

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    1. Hi honey, thank you so much! It feels great to have some lovely feedback, makes me feel like I'm on the right track. <3

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  3. After reading your interview I must say I love the decision you're making. There have been a lot of times where I just enter into a relationship and it become based on sex when in all honesty the connection of the heart is more important to me, yes, sex is nice but without that connection it just overall starts to seem meaningless.

    I'm actually displaying this from my male perspective because I personally have never understood just using sex as a foundation of a relationship because in the end, if the heart is not involved and sex is the only necessity, then the foundations of that relationship are bound to crack. I'm in ever way in admiration of your decision and hope in the end, the one can come and sweep you off your feet.

    Much Love,
    Sean

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    1. Sean, thank youuuuuu for such a lovely comment. It's amazing to hear that guys feel the same! xoxoox

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  4. I feel so identified with you and I know it's something sad to go through.
    I used to have a FWB, and I really liked him. One day, he decided to go back with his ex because he loved her. And, he liked me as a friend, but the only thing he loved about me was my body. I remember how sick I used to feel every time he told me I was perfect because I knew it wasn't for me, but for the sex we were having.
    The next guy I liked, wanted to have sex with me. Surprisingly, I said no (because I wanted he to like me first), and he didn't talk to me anymore. I find it kind of funny now.
    After him, I was with another guy... It's a long story, but the last thing he told me after having sex (for the last time), was that I had to stop being such a "nymphomaniac" because one day, I was going to want a true love, and I wasn't going to find it, because everyone would look at me as a sexual object. He told me that I already had that kind of reputation, and that was the only thing men looked me for. An absolute asshole but, even though I hate to admit it, he was right...
    I cried so much that day, and it even left me thinking that my ex boyfriend (we broke up a year ago) had been with me only to have sex. I had never felt so weak and destroyed before.
    And thanks to those experiences, I decided to do the same thing as you, giving up sex until I find someone who loves me without even thinking about it. It's hard to give it up because I also consider myself a "dog on heat", but I'm so mad and I think it's the right thing to do now.
    I was convinced of doing this a long time ago, but I needed something like this to cheer me up, because I was already failing... So this is a big thank you for everything you said in Cosmopolitan. I wish you find someone worth it. And thank you for being a great inspiration in this vow you and many other women are having now.

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    1. Hi honey - thank you for sharing your story with me. I can only hope that my features give you some support that it's not just you and that it will all work out down the line. Have faith! And keep coming back to S&LC because I'm sure I can make you laugh :D xx

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  5. I absolutely love this!! I can relate so much with what your trying to accomplish. I myself am going through this after having a 3 year non commitment relationship. Things I feel are only getting tougher for women these days, when it comes to getting a guy to commit.

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    1. Brenda...I feel you girl! Getting a guy to commit is hard ass work. I feel like just stepping out of it all for a while and having some actual me time. Muchly needed! xoxox

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